How to Have a Healthy Anger Release in 3 Steps

 

One of the most potent and misunderstood emotions on the vibratory scale is anger. Most individuals are afraid of it, and they feel out of control when they start ranting at the people they care about. This is because, culturally speaking, we don't fully understand the purpose of wrath or how to channel it in a way that is beneficial rather than destructive. Thank goodness you have (ever-so-humbly) me to teach you!

The Purpose of Anger

On the vibratory scale, feeling totally helpless is followed by anger. It is the first action you do to reclaim your personal power by placing the onus of responsibility elsewhere. Instead of "it's MY fault this is happening," it appears to be "it's HIS/HERS/the government's/God's/etc. fault that this is happening." Even though you're not entirely in control, it feels better than criticizing yourself. On the vibrational scale, it is higher. And while you're in this frame of mind, you can use anger's energy to lift yourself even higher.

Why Anger Feels Scary

Because we as a society don't know how to channel our anger in healthy ways, rage can feel frightening. Instead, what usually happens is that we experience long periods of sadness and helplessness, sometimes to the point where we are no longer able to control it. Then it explodes over something most likely trivial (like your husband not putting the dishes away or someone cutting you off in traffic), and for a split second, you feel in control. Until the guilt sets in for venting on your husband or the stranger, at which point you descend once again into humiliation and helplessness for questioning your mental health.

The Cycle of Doom is this pattern of holding it all in, letting it all out in an explosive, uncontrolled way, feeling briefly better, then feeling horrible and lowering yourself down once more. You need to fully let out your productive rage in order to break the pattern.

Steps to Constructive Anger Release

1) Find a quiet place to have your anger release.

Technically, if the other person has experience processing anger and won't be affected vibrationally, you can practice these exercises with them, but most people find anger to be extremely unsettling and will want to silence you. Alternately, you can feel awkward around others and try to withdraw. So, to let your rage out, select a quiet space like your bedroom or a spot outside by yourself. The restroom can be a great alternative if you don't have access to a private space.

2) Let yourself get mad.

Allow yourself the space to become truly furious. Say the petty things you've always wanted to say to the fictitious version of your husband, great uncle, or roommate. Inform them of their errors. You are free to express yourself fully in this setting without worrying about the reactions of others. If it feels fantastic right now, visualize converting them into bugs and squashing them. If it helps you feel better, cut off their head and then revive them so you can do it again. Scream loudly and pound pillows if necessary. If you lack privacy but still want to scream, fill a bucket with water, submerge your face in it, and scream.

While imagining these behaviors may be surprising, most people who release their anger for the first time do so because they have been suppressing it for such a long period. It's also critical to realize that your murderous and enraged fantasies are really expressions of your helplessness. It doesn't imply that you'd go out and kill someone or yell at them. And as you practice anger release, these violent representations become less frequent until they mostly just seem like an angry blip.

Most people also ask, "Well, according to the Law of Attraction, if I become furious and picture acting like an asshole, aren't I just drawing more of that circumstance and assholes into my life?" at this point. The truth is that you can't, because being able to vent your rage about something indicates that you already feel helpless about it. Simply said, letting your anger out will help you get past that emotion (and stop attracting assholes into your life!).

3) Rate your anger release on a scale of 1 to 10

If you've never experienced an anger release, it can be difficult to know when you've completely let go of your anger. Therefore, the best method to gauge how successful your release was is to rate how it made you feel on a scale of 1 to 10. (1 being not satisfying at all and 10 being perfectly satisfied). Ask yourself, "What do I need to do to get to a 10?" if your level of rage release is below that. and pay attention to what your gut tells you. then put it to the test.

When you hit a 10, you will feel better, so you will know. If you try to return to your previous state of anger, you'll find that the energy has changed and you're no longer truly upset about the issue. You no longer find it annoying. And as you reach that number 10, you'll notice that things change in your life. The person you were so angry with now treats you better. You get transferred, thus your previous boss is no longer your employer. You see your children putting the dishes away. You feel better all around.

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