I WAS A SHY PERSON FOR 23 YEARS… NOW, I CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO BE CONFIDENT IN TWO MINUTES…

Introduction:

Shyness is the tendency to feel awkward, anxious, or tense in social encounters. Especially with foreigners. If shyness is not excessive, it may seem easier to approach others. Being shy, naïve and lonely. With that, it rarely poses a threat to others and can make people feel more uncomfortable around you. Shyness is a feeling of fear or worry, especially in new situations or around unfamiliar people. It's a pleasant feeling of introspection - afraid to believe what some people think others think. This fear can interfere with a person's ability to do or say what they want. It can also prevent healthy relationships from forming. Shyness is often associated with low self-esteem. It can also be one of the reasons for social anxiety. Shame includes a variety of behaviors. It is normal for children to sometimes feel shy in new situations. Shame can be a culture. Some cultures, like most of the United States, see it negatively. Others, like some Asian cultures, see shyness more positively. Shy people are often hesitant to try new things. They often like to see others before joining the group. They usually take longer to warm up to new people and situations. Sometimes being quiet and withdrawn is a sign of someone's natural shyness. But this is not always the case. Being quiet is not always the same as being shy.

I was a shy person for 23 years of my life. I am always anxious and nervous in social situations. I will avoid flirting with others. I can't do that because of my lack of faith. People say that he is more relaxed and not confident in communicating with ordinary people and talking with other famous people who cannot give any kind of presentation in front of an audience. Then, when I went on stage for the presentation, I got goosebumps. So, I am a confident, confident woman/man. So what people say about me is true. Then I told myself that you have to build your confidence and do it. Don't think about what people say about me. People always judge others, they don't value themselves, they don't see how they are doing in life. Are you sure or not? Then I started struggling to start a conversation with someone. It is difficult or difficult to express myself and listen to my thoughts. As a result, I find it difficult to make friends and build meaningful relationships. However, everything changed when I discovered a simple technique that helped me overcome my shyness and become more confident in just two minutes. Today, I will share my journey and the transformative methods that helped me overcome my shyness.

·     Growing Up Shy:

Ø It was an antisocial person when I was a child. I don't like to join any show. I was always quiet and reserved. I was afraid to speak up and was happy to stay in the background. As I got older, my shyness became more and more ingrained. Everyone knows I'm shy, some girls/guys used to call me confident. Because of this, I feel my confidence ratio is going down. Because of this, it is difficult to make friends and I am often excluded from social events due to my reserved nature. In high school, I saw confident students who told their teachers with more confidence that they were not afraid. They also participate in games or other activities: presentations, lectures to classmates about any topic given to them by the teacher. But I was a classmate with them, I saw everything they did, but I did not participate in these activities. I always sit in the back (behind) I'm not good at the results of students always hurt me. Because of this, my confidence is even lower.

But I try to make myself as confident as they are. I struggle to find friends. I get very nervous when talking to new people and often stumble and slur my words. I feel like I don't fit in and can't find my place in the world. When I passed that class, I took the university entrance exam. I'm more afraid to think about what will happen to me in the university, what kind of people I will face. All different questions come to mind. But when I went to university at that time, the university made things worse. I was in a new environment surrounded by strangers. I found that students in this university have different opinions about how easily they can bully other students, and it is very difficult to form social bonds. I spent a lot of time in my dorm, avoiding public situations.

But my shyness began to affect my personal and professional life. Everyone in the community calls me a weaker girl/boy. The effects of shyness create emotional barriers that prevent sufferers from finding a good job or partner. Whenever I go to a job or a celebrity for anything, he says you have no credibility, sorry, I can't hire you because I want some trustworthy people for this job. This business will flourish.  when I hire confident or knowledgeable customers. So everywhere I go everyone calls me an insecure girl/boy. So, I struggle to prove myself and show my skills at work. I often let others take credit for my ideas and contributions. This lack of confidence began to affect my performance at work. One of the most common and effective barriers to success is shyness or reluctance to socialize with other people. Getting ahead in life requires the ability and willingness to connect with others. That shyness prevents many people from communicating effectively. Then I told myself that I have no confidence. Try to boost your confidence then, I knew I had to do something about it.

·       The Turning Point:

Ø At the age of 23, something changed. I moved to a new city because I want to change my personality and increase my confidence level, I want to show my confidence to people who tell me that you are more insecure and have no confidence when I leave. No one hired me for a job because I lacked confidence, now I want to show my confidence level. So I moved to another city where I didn't know anyone to increase my confidence level. I see this as an opportunity to start over and rebuild myself. It will change soon. I know that if I continue on my current path, I will always be held back by my shame. I said to myself, remember that people who are considered "cool" are not really different from you. Everyone has their own problems, insecurities and doubts. Stop thinking they are better than you. I know it's scary to take risks, but you have to take those risks. If your dream seems risky and scary - dividing it into small parts, then it will not be scary to follow. Over-planning can lead to overthinking and anxiety. So take action! Also, the more you do, the more confident you will become. Then I started reading about self-improvement and confidence building techniques. I attended workshops and seminars on communication and public speaking.

Ø I push myself out of my comfort zone because I need to believe in myself in my life. All this happened when I started talking to strangers. Surprisingly, no one here knows me, but if I attend their seminar and present to celebrities, people will call me a confident person and wish they would have more opportunities for my work. and no one can tease me when I am a confident girl/boy, then I can face problems. But at first it felt awkward and scary, but over time I found myself getting more comfortable and feeling better as I got more comfortable. But again, I want to put myself in an uncomfortable situation. Then I said I put myself in an awkward position. It is the best way to overcome shyness. Join a club, go to an event, attend a seminar, give a presentation and put yourself out there. This awkward situation will soon become easier and you will become a confident person. As people say, after all difficulties, there will be good times in our life. Otherwise, you won't be able to increase your confidence if you don't do everything you can to increase your confidence level. Or if you want to be a confident person, you should do this.

Ø                       ·      The Technique That Changed Everything: 

One day I was surfing the internet and found a way to increase confidence. I spent more time on this. Because I want and need to find a more useful and efficient method. So I finally found a more useful technical video for less confident gals/guys. So I made a video and promised to transform myself into a confident girl/boy in just two minutes. It's called a power pose, and social psychologist Amy Cuddy demonstrated it in a TED talk in 2012. The idea of ​​a power pose is simple and elegant. By holding a pose that exudes confidence and strength. You will feel good when you do that pose and some changes in yourself because the pose will actually make you feel more confident and strong, change inside and out. If you really want to change in yourself, be a confident person and face all kinds of challenges with more confidence and patience with yourself. When you are a confident girl/boy, everyone taps your confidence level and no one dares to say bad things about you.

Ø This is based on the concept of mindfulness, which means that changing your body posture can change the way you think and feel, as well as change your inner and outer appearance. You said I should do this pose if I want to improve my confidence. For strength, you should try to do this exercise: stand with your feet shoulder width apart, hands on your hips, and chest up. You hold this pose for two minutes as you breathe deeply and focus on feeling strong and powerful. I was skeptical at first, but I was told you can do it and decided to try. I used to do that pose in front of the mirror.

                                    

Then I consider the strength of the pose and hold it for two minutes. I stood in front of the mirror and said to myself, thinking about the time when I had to face other people and couldn't break  free (an exhibition, job interview, thesis defense) and influence your mind. Then, to my surprise, I felt something else inside me. I feel stronger, more confident, strong and in control. I want to apply this power in my daily life. So I started incorporating power poses into my routine. Whenever someone wants me to attend a seminar and give a presentation in high school, college, university or anywhere, I feel more confident and I don't hesitate to speak in universities. Every time I feel low on confidence, I do a power pose in front of the mirror. I'll also do it before going to a social event or when I need a quick confidence boost. So, I suggest you try and increase your confidence level and become stronger.

Ø      ·   The More I Practiced, The More Confident I Became:

Ø As I continue the power pose in front of the mirror. So I started to see a big difference in my confidence level. I feel different about myself and I feel different than I feel strong, I said your body confidence level increased. So, because of this belief, it is easier for me to speak in meetings, speak at universities, go to seminars without fear and get my ideas accepted. I can communicate more effectively with others and have meaningful relationships, I have faced all kinds of challenges in life and I feel like everyone laughs and insults me, so now they can't do everything if they want to. do me now i will answer and face with confidence. I feel good and fearless, it's all about confidence But I stopped being hard on myself, remember all the good things you've done. Remember how far you have come. You do well, remind yourself of this often. I have also noticed that my attitude has improved. I stand taller and feel more confident in my body language. Now I can talk to great personalities or famous people. Whoever called me a weak girl/boy is now calling me a confident girl/boy. Almost everyone asks me about my life, what did I do to become confident? So I replied that it was all because of that position of power. I used to do this pose in front of the mirror and I keep doing this pose. So this strong position is separate from my day job. And now I'm here because of that position of power. If you want to increase your confidence level, try this power pose and eliminate this pose from your life.

Ø I grew a sense of confidence that I had never felt before. Power poses were the beginning of my journey to greater confidence. I just want to increase my confidence level and show that confidence to people who call me a weaker girl/boy and laugh at me. I can't find friends anywhere: in school, college or university and in society. People don't want to be friends with me, they call me weak. So I continued to read and learn confidence building techniques such as positive self-talk and visualization. I have taken public speaking classes and participated in Toastmasters clubs, workshops and presentations at higher education institutions where I can use my communication skills in a supportive environment. 

Ø  My life has changed since discovering Power Pose. Now I can show myself at work. Now I can listen to my thoughts. I can face different people. Now, I am more comfortable in social situations and can start a conversation with anyone because I now have confidence. I have built meaningful relationships with others and fulfilled my personal life. Everyone thanked me for the boost of confidence. I feel very comfortable when people talk to me calmly. They don't hurt me like they used to.

·      Conclusion:

   Shame is an emotion that affects how a person acts and behaves around others. Shyness can mean feeling awkward, nervous, embarrassed, ashamed, or insecure. Shy people sometimes experience physical sensations such as blushing or speaking, trembling or breathing. Shame can be a difficult and lonely way to live. If you are a shy person and want to improve your confidence level, you can overcome that shyness and become more confident like other confident people. So this is something to help you build your confidence level. The key is the power pose. This power pose is just one tool that can help you change your confidence in two minutes. Do this pose in front of a mirror and remove this pose from your life. It is important to remember that it takes more time and practice to build a level of confidence. You may not become a completely different person overnight, but with consistent practice, you can make significant progress towards becoming more confident and confident. Try this pose a few times until you feel confident. If you increase your confidence level, recommend other people to do that power act if they want to increase their confidence level. Don't let shame stop you from reaching your full potential, he said. Try standing poses in front of the mirror regularly. See how it can change your faith and your life. You feel something in yourself. You will change yourself: change in the way you talk to others.